Just a Mind Problem

A lot of problems for one people originate from inside one's head, the thought or the mind; at least it happens plenty times in my life. A problem in this post relates to anything in an individual life, for example a relationship problem with friends.

Let's start with just one simple question: "Have you ever felt that someone close to you started to behave strangely, and you thought that he/she started to keep a distance for you, and just to thought that way made you felt very irritated??" My answer is, definitely yes.

It is a bad characteristic of mine to look almost everything in my life from pessimistic point of view or from a bad side of the coin. I have a friend that I feel so attached to and feel so comfortable with. Doing everything with this friend of mine is very wonderful. Smart, bright, cheerful, discipline, and the others characteristics make a lot of excitement to work or just hanging around together with this friend of mine. But recently, I feel that this friend of mine starts to keep a distance from me. I don't know why but my feeling and mind just keep telling and remind me about this thing, and it distracts me greatly. But, of course I don't know for sure about my friend behavior. It becomes a mind problem for me and keeps bugging me for a while.

I realize that maybe this friend of mine doesn't have a bad intention for me and, again, maybe it is just a mind problem for me. I have practiced a lot to suppress this bad characteristic by these simple four ways:

1. First, look from a lot of side. To experience the beauty of a place, one mustn't see it in morning, day or night, but every second in the 24 hours, and every day in a year. If I think this way, maybe other people will think in other way. It is better to view a problem with other people eyes or mind than just stuck with our own thought.
2. Keep a positive thought. A coin has two sides, so it's not good always live in pessimistic mood.
3. Consult it with somebody. Just keep remember that there are a lot of people out there who still care and will listen to us. Sharing a problem with somebody will make lot of weight lift from our shoulder.
4. Keep praying and smiling. Don't forget to keep praying to God and ask Him to help us in this problem. Last, keep smiling will bright a day, and of course it is really nice to see a smiling face rather than a gloomy and sad face.

It is not that easy to change a habit, so I just have to fix my bad characteristic bit by bit. Right now, I have get rid a little of my pessimistic characteristic. But it doesn't work every time. Sometime, there is a bad mood hanging over my face but I can clear that gloomy aura more easily. On the other hand, a good sleep or eating some snacks can help me to ease my mind *grin*. Anyway, we just have walk step by step toward a better road, aren't we??

Updated - 14th April 2007:
Somehow the reader comments option for this post was turned off and I don't know why. So I turned it on again.